Keep up with the people
you love, the
slow way.

dearfriends helps you collect your friends' addresses, remember birthdays, and actually send a card now and then. It's a little notebook for the people who matter — and gentle nudges to write to them.

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Made by one person, for a few hundred friends.
How it works

Three small rituals,
one little book.

i

Ask, gently.

Send a friend a private link. They fill in their address — no account, no app, nothing weird. It shows up in your book.

ii

Remember the dates.

Birthdays, move-in days, kid's first days of school. You'll get a nudge a week before — enough time to actually mail something.

iii

Write something.

Draft a postcard or letter in the app. Print it at home, or we'll stamp and mail it for you. Your handwriting still works, promise.

Your people

A little book
of everyone
you'd miss.

Not a CRM. Not a contact list. Just the friends, the family, the ones you keep meaning to call — with the details you need to actually send something in the mail.

Start your book

My people

34 friends · 12 this month
All
Family
Close
Abroad
Out of touch
H
Hana Okafor
Brooklyn, NY
last letter 3 weeks ago
birthday soon
S
Sam Beaumont
Portland, OR
last letter 11 months ago
write soon
M
Mira Väänänen
Helsinki, FI
writes back always
pen pal
D
Dad
Tucson, AZ
last letter last Sunday
family
T
Theo & Liv
Oaxaca, MX
just moved 3 days ago
new address
?
+ add someone
or send a link
Nudges, not notifications

We'll whisper
when it's time to write.

One small email on Sunday mornings. A heads-up before birthdays. That's it. You'll never get a red badge, a streak, or a push notification. This app wants you to close it and write.

Turn on Sunday nudges
Hana's birthday — next Friday
Sunday, April 26 · 8:02 am
You sent a postcard last year from Lisbon. She wrote back with a drawing. If you mail something Tuesday, it'll land just in time.
Sam hasn't heard from you in a while
quietly, since last July
No pressure — just a soft reminder. Seven minutes is about all it takes.
april 26, 2026
Dear Mira,
It's been a strange spring. I've been thinking about that winter we spent in Helsinki — the little kitchen, the candles, the way you made coffee at 11pm and we somehow still slept.

I hope the new apartment is warm. Tell me about it. I'll be in Copenhagen in June — any chance?
Yours, always —
The letters

Write it
in your own words.

dearfriends remembers the small things you've mentioned before — a trip, a new kid, a hard season — so your letters don't start with “sorry it's been so long.”

From an early user

I sent my grandmother a postcard for the first time in twelve years. She called me the day it arrived. I'd forgotten what that felt like.

JJules, 29 · Brooklyn · used it for 4 months
p.s. —

The people you love
aren't going to know
unless you tell them.

Start your little book today. It takes about four minutes.

Begin writing
with love,the dearfriends team (it's just me)